Coming Out Resources
Coming out as trans is different in many ways than coming out as LGB. For some people, they are stealth and do not want to be out publicly. For others, being out as trans is an important part of their identity. As one begins coming out, there are several resources listed below that may be helpful.
If you are just beginning the coming out process and would like assistance navigating the process and/or help in educating peers, professors, and colleagues, please be in touch with Debbie Bazarsky at the LGBT Center.
For Graduate Students : Often one’s relationship with the University is through the academic department. For support in coming out to classmates and faculty, LGBT Center Staff as well as the Graduate School Associate Dean for Student Life and Associate Dean for Academic Affairs can help you navigate this process.
For Faculty and Staff : In addition to the LGBT Center, the Dean of the Faculty or Human Resources can help you navigate the coming out process in the workplace. The LGBT Center staff can provide training if that is desired by the department and/or education with supervisors or department chairs. In addition, the Ombuds Office is an excellent confidential resource to discuss navigating the coming out process in the workplace.
The LGBT Center
The LGBT Center is a great resource for students who are coming out. The Director of the Center, Debbie Bazarsky, is happy to meet with students individually, in or outside the center. In addition, there is a support group, Transcending Boundaries (The Gender Group), that meets regularly throughout the school year. It is a confidential place for questioning, genderqueer, and trans students to discuss topics such as: gender identity, friends and family, transitioning, and navigating campus. For more information, contact Debbie Bazarsky or visit http://www.princeton.edu/lgbt.
Counseling & Psychological Services
CPS offers mental health services to all undergraduate and graduate students, and spouses and dependents of students are sometimes eligible for these services, as well. Staff includes psychologists, clinical social workers, and psychiatrists, and services included individual, group, and couples counseling, psychiatric consultation, and after-hours emergency services. Most care is short term, and referrals are available to longer-term care in the area. CPS also runs a LGBT coming out group, which is led by Dr. Joseph Cooper.
Location: McCosh Health Center, Third Floor
Phone: (609) 258-3285
Hours: M-F 8:45 a.m. – 4:45 p.m.
After Hours: (609) 258-3139, Second Floor
For more information visit http://www.princeton.edu/uhs/student-services/counseling-psychological/.
For billing information visit http://www.princeton.edu/uhs/student-services/costs-billing/
For many students, the process of coming out is made more complicated by concerns of financial security, and particularly whether one’s guardian(s) will continue to pay for tuition and/or living expenses. Robin Moscato, Director of the Undergraduate Office for financial aid, is knowledgeable about LGBT issues. She or one of her colleagues will discuss these concerns with you in a confidential and safe space.
Location: 220 West College
Phone: (609) 258-3330
For more information on the process of coming out as transgender, visit:
- Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) is an organization that provides support, educates communities, and advocates for equality. There are many different chapters across the United States, and despite the name, they offer many resources for trans people, too. TNET is PFLAG’s Transgender Network that provides resources particular to trans communities and their families and friends. For more information,
- The Human Rights Campaign (HRC) is an organization that advocates equal rights for LGBT communities. For more information on their resources for coming out as trans, visit: http://www.hrc.org/issues/pages/transgender.
- Ohio University Guide to Coming Out as Trans
This source offers information concerning the particularities of coming out as trans (as opposed to lesbian, gay, queer, or bisexual) including: choosing the best time to come out, who to come out to, methods of coming out, and coming out to professors, family, classmates and friends. It also provides links to other online resources not listed here.
- Coming Out as Trans Workbook
This interactive workbook (written by the American Psychological Association Task Force on Gender Identity and Variance) offers information on coming out and living as a transgender person including: terminology, self-acceptance, addressing fear, past experiences and expectations for the future. It contains lists of resources, including trans-relevant organizations, websites, books, and films relevant.
- Coming Out as Gender Variant
This source (written by TransYouth Family Allies, or TYFA) offers advice on how to plan your coming out process and how to deal with a variety of reactions you might face. It includes a list of relevant organizations and websites.