December 12, 2007: Memorials
JOHN FREDERICK KRAEMER '38
Jack died of heart trouble Aug. 11, 2007.
He grew up in Port Washington, N.Y., and attended the Lawrenceville School. At Princeton he majored in mechanical engineering, rowed on the varsity crew, and was a member of Cannon Club.
During World War II Jack worked for the government as a civilian in California and Canada, where he was secretly involved in anti-aircraft and bombsight technology. He helped to create the "DEW Line" early-warning system in Canada.
After the war, Jack joined the family freight-forwarding business from which he retired in 1984, and moved to Cocoa Beach, Fla. His lifelong passion was speedboat racing. He was the on-board mechanic for the 1940 Gold Cup winner. For $50 Jack, with a friend, bought a Gar Wood runabout and, after repairing it, won many races. Jack was inducted into the Gulf Oil Motorboat Racing Hall of Fame in 1952.
Jack was married to Alice Rose of Astoria, N.Y., who died in 2000. He is survived by his son, Fritz; a daughter-in-law, Leslie; granddaughter Joanna; and a nephew, Dr. Robert F. Pickels '63. The class extends its heartfelt condolences to them all.
The Class of 1938
John Holley Clark III '39
John died April 17, 2007, at his home in Manhattan. He had Alzheimer's disease for the past 12 years but managed to remain in contact with those around him until he fell and fractured his hip, resulting in a week's hospital stay that led to pneumonia.
After John received his law degree from Columbia in 1943, he was called to duty by the Air Force Signal Corps. Three years and four campaign stars later (from New Guinea to Japan) he was discharged as a captain. As an attorney he served 42 years with the antitrust division of the Department of Justice. He was a member of the Association of the Bar of the City of New York, the NYU Graduate School of Arts and Sciences Alumni Association, and the School Committee of the Cathedral Church of St. John the Divine.
This last affiliation reflected John's longtime interest in music. He sang in the Princeton choir, played cello with the Princeton Orchestra, and was a member of several well-known choral groups in New York.
Above all, John treasured his life with Eleanor, a singer, cooperating with her to raise their two sons, Benjamin and Christopher, both outstanding musicians.
We offer them our sincere sympathy.
The Class of 1939
Herman Albert Schmitz '39
Herm died Sept. 10, 2007, at the Kindred Acute Care Center in Wayne, N.J.
He suffered from Alzheimer's for a long time, but that did not keep him from all the normal activities of his life — including always attending our class reunions — until he fell and fractured his hip last February. He never got back on his feet, but fought on through increasing problems right to the end.
After college he went on active duty with the Navy, serving in the Atlantic and Pacific, and was a lieutenant commander on the Saginaw Bay, a small aircraft carrier, when discharged. He then attended New York University School of Law and Columbia Business School. His career was spent as a stockbroker, market analyst, and writer. He also served as trustee of Montclair Academy-Brookside School and as president (1962-1963) of the Princeton Alumni Association of Montclair and Vicinity.
Herm and his first wife, Carol, had four children, including Jeffrey, who predeceased him. Carol died in 1986, and in 1997, Herm married Elizabeth Penick. He is survived by Elizabeth; his daughter, Carol; sons John and Jay; five grandchildren; and five stepchildren. We offer them our sincere sympathy.
The Class of 1939
Jack Willson Thompson '40
Jack died Sept. 9, 2007, in Naples, Fla.
Until 1983, he lived primarily in Flint, Mich., where he had a private medical practice in obstetrics and gynecology, having graduated from Northwestern University's school of medicine.
Jack prepared at Phillips Exeter Academy. At Princeton, he majored in chemistry and was a member of the squash team, band, orchestra, dance band, Triangle Club, and Tower Club.
During World War II, he served in the Navy aboard a seaplane tender in the Philippines. He was recalled during the Korean War as a lieutenant.
Jack was a director of the Genesee Bank and Trust Co., a life member of the Genesee and Michigan State medical societies, and
St. Paul's Episcopal Church. After retiring
to Naples, he was a supporter of the Conservancy of Southwest Florida, the Audubon Society, and the Community Foundation of Collier County. He also was a member of Trinity By-The-Cove Episcopal Church and the Naples Yacht Club.
An award-winning photographer, his other interests included music, fly-fishing, pottery, boating, birding, gardening, flying, and tennis.
Jack married Virginia "Diddy" Hoover in 1944. She died in 1996. To his survivors, his son, Peter; his daughter, Susan Thompson-Shaw; their spouses; four grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren, his classmates extend their sincere sympathies.
The Class of 1940
Allen Caryl Bigelow Jr. '42
Ace Bigelow died of prostate cancer Aug. 27, 2007, in Charlotte, N.C. A lifelong bachelor, he had lived in Charlotte for many years.
Ace was born in Princeton in 1919 and graduated from the Taft School. At Princeton he joined Cottage Club and earned numerals as a member of the freshman hockey and the varsity hockey teams.
After graduation, Ace was inducted into the Army as an officer in the field artillery of the 99th Division. In September 1944 the division sailed for England and then for France. During the Battle of the Bulge, Ace was wounded when a bomb hit his command post. He was evacuated to England and spent four months in a hospital. His services were recognized with a Purple Heart and a decoration from the government of Luxembourg.
After the war Ace worked in sales for insurance and fabric companies. A popular man with a gift for friendship, he enjoyed playing tennis and golf and shooting skeet, an activity in which he excelled. He traveled widely with other family members.
To his sisters, Katherine Hammond and Elizabeth Stickney; his cousin, Jack Wallace '55; and his 10 nieces and nephews, the class sends its sympathy.
The Class of 1942
Stephen Rogers Steinhauser '42
Stephen Rogers Steinhauser was born in Newburgh, N.Y., in 1921 and died Aug. 11, 2007, in Sarasota, Fla., of complications of heart disease.
Steve came to Princeton from George Washington High School in New York City. He was a member of Gateway Club and majored in geological engineering.
During World War II, Steve served on destroyers in the South Pacific. At the end of the war he was separated as a lieutenant. For many years he was a mining engineer for the United Nations, with assignments in Burma, Chile, Argentina, El Salvador, and Colombia — sometimes in locations so remote that the only access was by elephant.
After his retirement, Steve was able to concentrate on studying butterflies, a field in which he was a recognized expert. After his personal collection of 35,000 specimens (including more than 40 previously undocumented species) was acquired by the Allyn Museum of Entomology in Sarasota, he stayed at the museum as a research associate, writing more than 20 scientific papers on Lepidoptera.
To his wife, Josie; his daughter, Nancy E. Murray; his son, Peter; stepchildren Mary Lloyd and Larry Lloyd; two grandchildren; and four step-grandchildren, the class sends its sympathy.
The Class of 1942
JOHNSON CLARK '43
John died April 27, 2007, in Summit Hospital, Oakland, Calif., of complications from a heart procedure. He was 85.
A 55-year resident of Lafayette, Calif., John was a home builder, an athlete, history buff, civic worker, and Democratic activist. With his wife, Louise, and friend Jeff Heaton, John launched a project last year on a Lafayette hillside that he co-owned, erecting 3,000 crosses to commemorate troop deaths in Iraq. The project drew widespread media attention, setting off public accolades and criticism. The California Senate, Assembly, and Contra Costa Board of Supervisors all hailed John's accomplishments after his death.
John was born in Evanston, Ill., grew up in Winnetka, and prepared at New Trier High School. At Princeton he majored in biology, played freshman football, was on the varsity swimming and track teams, and joined Quadrangle Club. He left Princeton in 1942, served in the Navy, and later graduated from the University of Chicago.
Over the years he enjoyed Boy Scout outings, swimming, bicycling, and whitewater kayaking. He founded a triathlon at the Lafayette Reservoir in which 50 athletes participated.
He married Louise Harvey in 1948. She survives, along with their four sons, two daughters, and 14 grandchildren, including triplets born five days before John died.
The Class of 1943
GEORGE ROBERT CARR '44
George, known to us also as "Bob" during our campus years, died July 2, 2007, in Daytona Beach, Fla. He was 87.
Born in Syracuse, N.Y., he prepped at Pawling Boys School. At Princeton he was active in football, hockey, and baseball and majored in biology before leaving in the fall of 1942 for a commission with the Army's coast artillery. He served in the Panama Canal Zone and the European theater. He received a Princeton associate of arts certificate. George worked for New Jersey Transit (bus) for 30 years, and was a former general manager. While residing in Caldwell Township, N.J., he served on a regional school board and was a member of the First Presbyterian Church. He continued to enjoy hockey and golf.
Survivors include his three daughters, Wendy Fritze, Tracy Skinner, and Constance Carr, and five grandchildren. Our sincere condolences go to them all.
The Class of 1944
EDWARD ALOYSIUS CUDAHY III '45
Ed Cudahy died Nov. 4, 2006, at age 84.
Ed entered Princeton from Canterbury School and left Princeton to serve in the U.S. Maritime Service and the Navy from 1942 to 1945.
Ed joined the family-owned packing company in Phoenix, Ariz. He served as president and chairman of the board in the 1960s. He served on the boards of Mutual of Omaha Insurance Co. and United Benefit Life Insurance Co. and was a trustee for the Cate School in Montecito, Calif., where he resided for several years before his death.
Ed's passion in life was cattle ranching — at Turkey Track in Prescott, Ariz., 7XV Ranch in Silver City, N.M., and Slash Ranch in New Mexico. Ed's son, Michael, predeceased him in 2006. In addition to his wife of 61 years, the former Nancy Cochran, Ed is survived by his children, Edward, Kathleen, John, and Carry, and eight grandchildren. The class expresses its sympathy to the family.
The Class of 1945
W. Bruce Douglass '47
Bruce joined us in 1943 but was soon swept into the Navy's Seabees and served in the Philippines and the Solomon Islands.
He returned to Princeton in 1946, but before graduation moved back to his native state of Indiana, where he graduated from Indiana University and married Frances the same year. Bruce went on to graduate studies in psychology at UCLA. As a licensed professional he became an expert in test development, analysis, and administration, designing personnel tests for the State of California, IBM Corp., the Social Security Administra-
tion, and, from 1971 to 1991, Pennsylvania's Civil Service Commission.
Apart from his professional successes, Bruce was a man of many talents. For example, he helped to prepare and market international tours for Sights and Sounds — a Harrisburg musical group. But his great skills lay in composing operas (the first when he was 17) and in writing poems of all genres: some for the sophisticated, others for lovers of humor and fantasy. It is a pity these talents were never centered on fabulous '47, especially in light of his enduring affection for Princeton and our class.
Bruce died June 7, 2007, regretting to the end his inability to attend our 60th. Celebrating this gifted, witty classmate, we send warm wishes to Frances, his wife of 58 years, and their children.
The Class of 1947
George Albert Zabriskie '48
George died from Parkinson's disease July 4, 2005. He spent the last days of his life in Pittsburgh to be close to his daughter, Tavia LaFollette, who profiled his life for this memorial.
George was born Oct. 24, 1926, in Wilmette, Ill. Following his father's death the next year, he went to live with his grandparents in New York City. George attended Trinity School until joining the Navy. At Princeton, he earned his degree in history and had a passion for filmmaking. He was in Campus Club and played club football and hockey.
"I fought the Korean War out in Long Island City making training films for the Army," he said. In 1952 he married Virginia Marshall, who created the well-known Zabriskie Galleries in New York and Paris. The marriage ended in divorce, and in 1962 George married actress Sherry LaFollette, daughter of Wisconsin Gov. Phillip LaFollette and granddaughter of Gov. "Fighting Bob" LaFollette. The couple produced a son and a daughter, dozens of films, and four books. They were honored at the Cannes Film Festival for The Secret Squint. Their film Summerdog opened the Guild Theatre in Rockefeller Center.
Sherry died in 2002. To George's children, Oliver and Tavia, the class offers condolences on the death of a creative and fine man.
The Class of 1948
HAROLD L. GANS '49
Harold died Aug. 15, 2007, at the age of 81.
He prepared for Princeton at Bronx High School of Science. At Princeton he majored in SPIA. He was on the business board of The Daily Princetonian, played varsity soccer, and was a member of Terrace Club. He served in the Army from 1944 to 1946 in the European theater.
Harold spent his career in finance, starting with 10 years at City Bank in New York. He then moved to TWA and Bache & Co. before starting his own bank in Luxembourg from scratch. After retirement he worked as an investment adviser in Luxembourg, with frequent visits to the United States. He also served as vice president of the leading Luxembourg soccer club, Avenir Beggen, and as treasurer of the American Business Association of Luxembourg.
Harold is survived by his wife, Eleonor, and his son, Michael. The class extends its sincere sympathy to them on their loss.
The Class of 1949
PERRY H. KNOWLTON '49
Doc died July 6, 2007, after a valiant battle against Alzheimer's disease. He was 80.
He prepared at Phillips Exeter Academy and majored in English at Princeton, where he was a member of the Advertising Club, the Flying Club, and Cap and Gown.
Doc taught English for a short time after graduation and then moved to Charles Scribner & Sons, where he first was a sales representative and later an editor. He left in 1959 to join Curtis Brown Ltd., one of the oldest literary agencies in the world. Doc rose to be its president in 1968. At that time the oldest contracts of the company still earning money were for the Winnie the Pooh books by A.A. Milne. The list of authors that he represented personally included Ayn Rand, Ogden Nash, Alvin Toffler, and many others. Doc considered his other activities to be more obsessions than hobbies. They included sailing ocean racers, photography, antiques, and books.
He is survived by his son, Timothy; daughters Elizabeth McNamara and Virginia Canfield; and three grandchildren. The class extends its heartfelt sympathy to them on the loss of a man who lived life to the fullest.
The Class of 1949
DOUGLAS K. VALLDEJULI '49
Doug died July 25, 2007, just prior to his 80th birthday.
He prepared for Princeton at Culver Military Academy. He left Princeton to enter the Army. While on active duty in 1947 he was injured in an accident and became a paraplegic. He returned to Princeton, but found the campus too difficult to negotiate for his condition. He later graduated from UCLA as an English literature major.
In spite of his handicap Doug had a successful career in business and was president of four international companies engaged in manufacturing and marketing personal-care products. He was a past president of the Paralyzed Veterans of America and the National Paraplegic Association. He was a world-class competitor in wheelchair table tennis.
Doug was predeceased by his wife, Veronica. He is survived by his son, Nicholas, to whom the class extends sympathy on the loss of a father who was an inspiration to all.
The Class of 1949
DAVID TOWNSEND LOOK '51
David came from a long line of Princetonians, commencing with Jacob Lindley 1800 and including John I. Blair (a charter trustee from 1866 to 1899), his grandfathers David M. Look 1884 and Clarence Blair Mitchell 1889, and his father, Edward Townsend Look 1918.
Born April 4, 1929, in New York, he came to us from St. Paul's. At Princeton he was a history major, editorial chairman of The Daily Princetonian, and a member of the Canterbury Fellowship and Colonial Club. He roomed with John Adams, Harold Cabot, and Addison Ward.
David served in the Navy and Foreign Service following graduation. For many years thereafter he was an officer in Morgan Guaranty Trust Co.'s international division. Widower of Charlotte Sears Look, David married Charlotte "Cha Cha" Cleveland, daughter of Richard E. Cleveland 1917, in 1958. For many years they lived in Far Hills, N.J., where they raised their family. In 1994 they relocated to Brunswick, Maine, where David led the life of a hunter, fisherman, and sailor.
David died unexpectedly Jan. 6, 2007, and Charlotte died a month later. His daughter, Charlotte Szuch, predeceased him. He is survived by his daughters, Lucy Kat, Ellen Look, and Carol Look; five grandchildren; and his sister, Caroline Lareuse.
The Class of 1951
Pete Adams Jr. '57
Pete Adams died tragically Aug. 25, 2007, while flying his ultralight
plane, a sport he recently had begun.
A free spirit, Pete had a variety of jobs at Wyeth Labs and Rorer Inc., and had enjoyed various hobbies. He married Blaine Edwards and they had three sons, but later divorced. He started a painting company in the 1970s and sold out, becoming a hippie in a Rocky Mountain commune. Pete and his companion, Polly Roye, spent 20 years together. In the 1980s he moved to Taos, N.M., where he was a handyman. He emerged from a difficult mental period in the 1990s to a positive lifestyle and success in real estate.
Pete was a warm and wonderful chap. The class extends its sincere condolences to Pete's three sons, Pete III, Mike, and Chris.
The Class of 1957
Robert G. Hahn '57
Bob died Aug. 10, 2007, in Macon, Ga.
He attended Princeton University on a naval scholarship and majored in history. He was active in Orange Key and the Under-
graduate Council. His senior-year roommates were Doug Beatty and Doug Kerin.
Bob was employed by Southern Cement and later by Metropolitan Life Insurance Co. and Mutual Financial Group. In the Macon community, he was active in the Riverside Methodist Church, the Woodruff Sunday Class, and the Tuesday Prayer Breakfast. For more than 20 years, he was a member of the Optimist Club, which honored him three times — the only man to be so recognized.
He is survived by Joann, his wife of 48 years; son Robert; daughter Hope Shields; brother Frederick; sister Ann Knies; and several nieces and nephews. A devout and kind individual, he will be sorely missed. The class extends its sincere condolences.
The Class of 1957
Gordon Buell Ford Jr. '59
Gordon died from natural causes May 6, 2007, at his home in Louisville, Ky. He was a noted scholar and esteemed professor whose brilliant career was cut short by mental illness.
Gordon's abilities were recognized early on when he was elected to the National Honor Society at Eastern High School in Louisville. At Princeton he majored in classics, including the study of medieval Latin and Sanskrit. He joined Prospect Club and was elected to Phi Beta Kappa with a first-group overall average.
At Harvard Graduate School of Arts and Sciences, Gordon did six years of graduate work in classics and linguistics with special emphasis on classical, Indo-European, historical, and Baltic linguistics, receiving his Ph.D. with highest honors. He then taught Indo-European and Baltic linguistics at Northwestern University and served as a visiting professor of medieval Latin at the University of Chicago. From 1972 through 1976 he taught English and linguistics at the University of Northern Iowa in Cedar Falls. In 1978 he left academia to become a reimbursement financial-management specialist with Humana Inc., retiring as a senior executive vice president.
Gordon never married. He is survived by his sister, Gayle Ford Whittenberg, to whom the class extends sincere condolences.
The Class of 1959
STEPHEN SLATON SCHEIDT '60
Stephen died of prostate cancer Aug. 7, 2007, surrounded by his family on Whidbey Island, Wash.
He prepared for Princeton at Forest Hills (N.Y.) High School, where he was valedictorian of his class. A chemistry major at Princeton, he was social chairman of Prospect Club, manager of the freshman football team, and active in the Savoyards and Triangle Club.
Stephen studied in Germany on a Fulbright fellowship and graduated from Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons. As a full-time faculty member at New York-Weill Cornell Medical Center since 1970, he researched coronary artery disease, served several years as dean of students or dean for continuing medical education, edited two cardiology journals, and was elected to the board of New York's Empire Blue Cross/Blue Shield Plan. He received the Elliott Hochstein Teaching Award from Cornell University Medical College and, as co-director of the Salzburg-Cornell Seminars, the Silver Medal for Science and Technology from the Austrian government. He enjoyed music, travel, skiing, and good food.
To Andrea, his wife of 42 years; their daughters, Leslie and Vivian; sons-in-law Tom and Ammi; grandchildren, James, Andrew, Gabrielle, and Sophie; and Stephen's brother, Peter Slaton, the class extends its deepest sympathy.
The Class of 1960
Andrew I. Davidson '62
Andrew Davidson died in an automobile accident Dec. 21, 2006.
Andrew was admitted to Princeton in the Class of 1961. However, he entered the college in 1959 with our sophomore class. In January 1960, Andrew joined Cloister, where some clubmates still remember him. He left Princeton in December 1960. Our contact with Andrew was unfortunately brief.
Andrew earned his bachelor's from Rutgers and a master's in physics from Michigan State. He married a fellow Michigan student, Julie Ann, in 1966.
He worked as a software engineer for Control Data in Minnesota and then worked in Oregon for Tektronix and Xerox, retiring in 2001. The family lived in farming country near Newberg, Ore., since 1980, where they enjoyed outdoor life.
Julie Ann died of lung cancer Dec. 12, 2006. Nine days later, Andrew's car skidded on ice while he was driving to their lawyer's office to start probate on his wife's will. He hit an oncoming car and was killed instantly, but the other driver was not hurt.
Andrew was predeceased by a daughter, Kathryn. The class extends its sympathy to his daughter, Laura, and brother, Jim. Laura has persevered through multiple tragedies in a short period.
The Class of 1962
Donald C. Kengla '68
Donald C. Kengla died Aug. 19, 2007, in Atlanta.
Don entered Princeton from Medford (Ore.) Senior High School. Valedictorian of his class, Don also was a varsity basketball player and cross-country runner. At Princeton, Don majored in aeronautical engineering and ate at Dial. Senior year he roomed with Jerry Frucht, Kent Garner, Damon Miller, and John Ragazzini. His classmates remember him as being a contrarian of sorts but always a loyal friend.
After graduation, Don entered the Navy and became an aviator. During a 20-year Navy career, Don served several sea tours and numerous shore assignments across the United States. He retired in 1988 as a commander. His decorations included the Navy's commendation medal, achievement medal, meritorious unit commendation, and Battle "E" ribbon. After his retirement from the Navy, he joined Delta Airlines, where he began a second career as a flight engineer, then co-pilot, and later captain of various aircraft. He retired a second time in 2005, then spent his last two years as a volunteer with Trout Unlimited. He went fishing whenever he could.
His greatest love was his family: Joan, his wife of 38 years, son Peter, and daughter Ann. They and his many friends miss him dearly. To them all, the class extends deepest sympathy.
The Class of 1968
William Hootkins '70
Distinguished character actor William Michael Hootkins died Oct. 23, 2005, at the age of 57.
A graduate of St. Mark's School, "Hoot" was active in theater throughout his schooling. After graduation from Princeton he attended the London Academy of Dramatic Arts and had many roles in British television and theater, often portraying Winston Churchill.
His extensive film work included a co-starring role in Hear My Song as Ned Beatty's look-alike impostor. He also had small but dramatic parts in Flash Gordon and the first Star Wars film. "If I had known Star Wars would catch on like it did, I would have insisted on a character with continuity," he quipped. Hoot also appeared in A River Runs Through It, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Batman, American Gothic, Valentino, and the television movie The Magnificent Ambersons. His TV roles include guest starring on Cagney & Lacey and The West Wing. His magnificent voice also put him in great demand for audio books, radio, and documentary narration.
He is survived by his wife, Carolyn Robb Hootkins; his mother, Helen Hootkins; sister Susan Hootkins; brother Robert E.; and several nieces and nephews. Contributions in his memory may be made to St. Mark's School of Texas, 10600 Preston Rd., Dallas, TX 75230.
The Class of 1970
Jean P. Mather *51
Jean P. Mather, the outspoken president of the University of Massachusetts from 1954 to 1960, died June 21, 2007. He was 92.
Mather helped transform an agricultural college into a university of national status. During his tenure, the College of Arts and Sciences was founded, and the schools of nursing and education were established.
A direct descendant of Cotton Mather (the influential Puritan minister in the late 1600s and early 1700s), he earned a bachelor's from the University of Denver, and then was an ensign in the Navy during World War II. After the war, he earned an MBA from the University of Denver, and then a master's in economics from Princeton.
Berating the Massachusetts legislature at a public hearing in 1959 for refusing to increase salaries at the university, he stated, "It will profit us nothing to build a lot of bright new tin cans and then fill them with half-baked beans." The pay increase was then approved. After leaving Massachusetts, he was at several other schools before retiring in 1980.
Preceded in death by his first wife, Marie, he is survived by his second wife, Harriet, whom he married in 1981, and one daughter, Barbara L. Johnson.
Harold Powers *59
Harold Powers, the Scheide Professor of Music History, emeritus, at Princeton, died March 15, 2007, of liver cancer. He was 78.
Powers' published work dealt with music and language, medieval mode, Indian music, and Puccini, but was always based on the communicative aspects of music.
He earned a bachelor of music degree in piano from Syracuse University in 1950, and then an MFA in composition and musicology from Princeton in 1952. Two years followed in Madras, India, as a Fulbright fellow, before he received a Ph.D. in musicology in 1959. Among his mentors were Milton Babbitt *42 *92 and Edward Cone '39 *42. Powers taught at Harvard from 1958 to 1960, and then at Penn from 1961 to 1973, before coming back to Princeton. He remained on the faculty until retiring in 2001.
Music department chair Scott Burnham said, "A formidable polymath, Harry was also a force majeure in the classroom and seminar room." In 2006, the American Musicological Society established a travel fund in his name to encourage and assist younger academicians.
Powers is survived by his companion, Barbara Rosen; his former wife, Elizabeth Conner Powers; their two children; and three grandchildren.